I don’t mean to go around promoting this woman’s work because I like it. But because I would like to address some of the points she makes in her article.
I should mention that this is all coming from the perspective of a gay man, which is going to skew my perspectives a lot (put a pin in that thought for later).
Frozen CAN have a lot of the homosexual themes that the author talks about. Wait what? Not blatant disagreement? Yep. I felt a lot of those feelings watching the movie all three times I saw it in theaters. I could relate to Elsa’s fears of being discovered, her isolation that she had to deal with, and the liberation she felt after the cat was out of the bag. But that’s not all I found myself identifying with…
I related to Olaf’s constant optimism and reliability. I also understood Kristoff’s struggle in as close to a “friendzone” relationship as Disney would get. I felt the desires of Anna to find the true love of her life to the point where she forced opportunities where she shouldn’t have, and the rejection she felt when she realized the world wasn’t as it seemed, and her willingness to sacrifice herself for the sake of the person she cares most about. Because guess why? THAT’S THE WHOLE POINT!!!
Disney movies, as well as any good work of art, invoke feelings within us. And they aren’t going to be the exact same for everyone, we all come in with our own biases. (Time to go grab that pin from earlier.) We all get out of experiences like these exactly what we want to, and in many ways need to. That’s why I could relate to many of the struggles Elsa goes through, because I have had similar emotions at many stages of my life. I connect myself to the story. The story doesn’t change, I add myself to it.
I’m not going to claim any knowledge of what the author’s background is and what the love she’s experienced looked like. But it’s just as clear to me that she related to the movie, in several points the exact same as I did, because she wanted to that way. And I don’t believe that she shouldn’t be allowed to feel that way. What I do believe is the way she chose to convey her feelings on the issue may have not been the proper outlet for her feelings.
So what I’d like to counter argue is simply this. And coincidentally enough it has broader implications than just one article about one movie… If you don’t like the story that you’re relating to, instead of denouncing the story, relate to something else that resonates within you. I’ve heard female friends talk about how they related strongest to the moment when Anna chose to fight for her sister instead of be rescued by a man because it relates to their desire to be viewed as a strong independent woman. That’s a great message if it relates to you, doesn’t quite foot the bill for me though.
So instead of sitting here and attacking the article because of my own personal views. I am going to chose to relate to this story as a story of passion for ones views, not unlike the ones I have in this article. One where the author seeks to try and leave the world a better place for the people who follow her. And while I may not agree with the content of her message, I can understand the devotion in her heart.
Thanks for reading the whole post. Realize it’s a little long. But I just wanted to get that off my chest.
And this is why you don’t mess with Feyhler.
When I send a large group email at work and have to field all the responses
Yep. This. Scheduled training for 150 people and this is exactly how that feels.
Shameless plug for why I had to cancel a DVR recording on Sundays for the next three weeks while Sherlock is on (Sorry, Cutthroat Kitchen). I’m genuinely excited about the prospects of “Looking” and I can’t wait to see it play out. As a gay man, just what the show represents for the state of our cultural affairs is great news.
Shameless plug of my TV blog where I shamelessly plug an article that shamelessly plugs HBO’s “Looking” and why I, and hopefully you too, am excited about it’s pilot Sunday. And who knows, I may eventually get to the point where I update regularly.
Me… After my first week back at the gym…